Surprise it’s Twins!

This was written the morning after I found out I was having twins. I thought I’d share the thoughts running through my head.  

I’m in quite a state, not the kind that makes you act like a crazed cat woman of sorts but the kind that almost paralyses you mid-activity until you shake your head and then force yourself to continue on with what you were doing. I’m not sure how long this will last but I am guessing it could be quite a long time (perhaps more than nine months).

I am quite the planner. My busy brain vibrates when I have a new subject to think on and plan in detail. When I found out I was pregnant, I didn’t have to think much (after all, I have had Miss Possum so I would say I am experienced at pregnancy).  Of course, being the planner I am, I still thought about how Poss would interact with the new baby and how having another little one might cause some extra work.

For some strange reason I kept worrying about the impending ultrasound. Will everything be normal? Will there be a heart beat? On that day, yesterday, Matt and I found out we were having twins… yep, twins! Yes, deadly serious! You could have knocked my husband over with a feather!

When telling my mother-in-law and my best friend that I was pregnant (before the ultrasound), the twin factor was brought up in jest but the thought really only skimmed the surface of my brain and bounced off immediately.

It is 2.27am and my brain won’t shut off. I can’t stop thinking about it. Nothing much I can do. I have to sit and let these two little children take me for a ride in my soon to be over-sized and over stretched tummy that will resemble a giant watermelon (the kind that wins awards!).

It is a curious feeling. I’m excited and I do feel special (only one in 80 Caucasian women have twins) but I also feel like I have a target pinned on my head. I know how hard it is to have one newborn baby, how on earth I will cope with two?

When I tell people, they seem genuinely enthusiastic but after their initial celebrations you can almost see a slight change in their facial features and you know they’re saying, ‘glad it’s you and not me.’

I’m going to stay positive about having twins, it’s a miracle in its own way and although I might focus on a beautiful picture of me holding two new-born babies sleeping away in my arms, I’m still very much aware that this will be the hardest thing I will ever do.

Were you ever given a surprise that kept you up at night? If you had an unexpected baby surprise, what went through your head? If you’re a mummy of twins, how did you feel when you found out the news?

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  1. A good friend of mine has twins and had a similar experience when she found out she was having them. I often think about how an earth she copes with twins – I find it hard enough with the toddler running one way and baby crawling the other… must be a nightmare with an extra one sometimes. How old are your twins now? x
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    • They at 18 months old and I can now say it was easier than I anticipated including the pregnancy, birth and the aftermath. There are many times where I’m frazzled with three under five year olds running around my feet but for th most part it’s rather nice.

  2. Oh bless! I had a similar experience – I was beside myself with excitement but also absolutely exhausted (double dose of hormones – no wonder I tested so early and got such a strong line!).

    However, my story doesn’t end as happily as yours did and I lost one of my twins late in the first trimester, and nearly haemorrhaged and lost the other early in the second trimester. Sorry, this got a bit gloomy! I call her Little Lost Puggle and think of her often.

    The Welshman’s mother had a surprise. 43 years ago, ultrasounds weren’t available, so when she went into labour 6 weeks early, her husband was on his last business trip. My husband was born and then 7 minutes later, out came his brother! Nanna, who turned 100 last year, by the by, was deputised to ring her son-in-law and was told to break it to him gently. “Richard, it’s twins!”. Yup, gently! ;)

    I’m so happy for everyone who has multiples. Sometimes I’m a little sad, but I always love reading about twins. x
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    • Oh Kim. I just want to give you the biggest hug right now. It didn’t take me long to fall in love with the two babies inside my tummy and I remember my terror when I had some blood and thought I’d lost one of them. I can’t imagine how it would have felt to loose one and then almost loose the other. Oh honey, I’m so sorry you had to endure that. xx

      • Kim-Marie says:

        Oh, thanks Penny. Didn’t mean to be a Gloomy Gertie. I think I must have had Spill It Sugar for breakfast one day last week. I was honest and open bloody everywhere! ;)

        All my life, I’d wanted twins. Since I was tiny. I was so happy, then so sad but still happy, then angry and confused. People didn’t feel like I had the right to be upset, sometimes, and thought I’d be grateful. Bizarre.

        Twins have a special place in my heart x
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        • It would have been a very emotional experience for you and my twin story would’ve brought back memories. Thank you for sharing your story.

          Woah! If anyone had said that they thought I should be grateful even though I’d lost one of my twins, I would have punched them. That’s so incredibly rude and very short sighted. You had every right to mourn the little bundle that didn’t make it Kim. Never let anyone tell you different!

  3. So many things to think about whilst being pregnant.
    I have 3 babies, both baby 1 and baby 3 were a ‘suprize’.
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  4. My bestie has twin boys. When she found out, she rang me in complete shock! I thought she was joking! Seriously, I don’t know how you guys do it….as you said, it’s hard enough with one baby, let alone two!
    But definitely twice the love too!
    My hat goes off to you, my dear! :)
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    • Thanks Tracey! I didn’t really have a choice to be a twin mum. I have no history in my family so it was a complete shock.

      I sent my bestie a text just saying ‘Twins!’ Needless to say but she rang me back screaming ‘ What?!” down the phone. The best part, after the shock, was telling people that we were having twins. The faces were priceless!

  5. Congrats :) our Lil girl wasn’t “planned” although we both knew we wanted a child but I was still working in Japan then and couldn’t leave immediately. For the first 6 Mths of my pregnancy I was actually apart from hubby {he works in Singapore} and only saw him once or twice when he flew up. It was tough but luckily we tided through. All the best and your double blessings :)
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    • I couldn’t even image not having hubby there to share the pregnancy with. It’s a shame you had to do it alone. Glad it all worked out though.

  6. Thanks for sharing, what a wonderful insight into what it is like to find out you are having twins. I know mums of twins cringe when they here it but I always liked the idea of having twins. I was so certain my first was going to be two but alas it wasn’t meant to be :) Which now I am probably a little glad about.
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    • It took a while to fully grow on me but I fell in love with the two babies inside me pretty quickly and didn’t want to loose them. I feel very blessed now.

  7. Oh that would have been a MASSIVE surprise!!

    Twins run in my husbands Mum’s side of the family.. So I always hoped there may be a chance..

    It would knock me over as well as my husband (and my mum would freak out) if we ever had twins.. but what a wonderful surprise and such beautiful children you have!!

    :) xx Yay for miracles that surprise us!
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    • Naww thank you! Yes, it was massive considering we have no history of twins in our family on my mother’s side (which counts when they are fraternal I think). I would have never guessed I’d have twins, ever! So glad I did though. They are just adorable and it really is double the cuteness. Sometimes I think I’m going to loose my voice for squealing so much. Two babies together is so amazing!

  8. Mr Surfer and I sat outside the clinic on the bench for 5 minutes dumbfounded when we were told we were having twins.
    I think the rates for Asian women having twins was something like 1 in 400 (?) Some ridiculously crazy low odds, anyway.
    When people say, “Double Trouble” I’m quick to shut it down with “Twice as Nice”
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    • 1 in 400! Holey moley Grace. Didn’t you pick the most colourful straw (I know it’s meant to be the shortest but I think that makes having twins sound bad and I don’t think it’s bad at all).

      Yes, I appreciate the positive comments about twins, it’s when I get the ‘oh your poor thing’. I hate when people say that. I understand but I feel blessed for having my babies, so for someone to make it out like I’m worse off for having them… I wish people would think before they speak!

  9. I struggled getting my head around each of my singleton pregnancies. Twins would have sent me into meltdown! Thankfully I think the universe realised that early. So sent me four of them… three are boys! *sigh* xxx
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  10. Laney @ Crash Test Mummy says:

    Twins run on both sides of my family and also one side of my husbands. We thought we were going to have twins for sure! I was quite nervous at the first ultrasound for my second pregnancy!

    • Thanks for dropping by Laney. We were always three strikes and you’re out. As in if we had a boy and girl – no more but if we had two girls we’d go again or visa versa. We had Miss Possum so we tried for a boy on the second try (ovulation wise) and we got twins – both girls! Go figure. I wasn’t meant to have a boy and yes we’re done!

  11. Oh bless.. that must be a myriad of emotions you are going through! I always wanted twins and a psychic has predicted my next children will be!!

    Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy xxx

    • Thanks Jane but I’ve already had them! :) I was posting my thoughts from when I found out I was having twins. The pregancy did go well though. I’m made for pregnancy I think. I was great the whole way through, hardly any sickness and I was still bouncing around to Christmas songs before I even had them!

  12. Hi Penny, I’ve always wondered how it would feel like to go for an ultrasound and see not one, but two fetuses. Guess it must really be a big surprise at first and probably even worry when you think about how you only have two hands to cope. But guess once you accept it, the joy and the anticipation will also double. I had a miscarriage last year and it broke my heart when I saw an empty sac with no fetus inside. So the idea of having two is pretty welcoming. =) I’m so happy for you and glad that you are feeling blessed! Life is so full of surprises!
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    • That it is Summer. I feel very blessed now :)

    • I forgot to mention that I’m so, so sorry you had a miscarriage. I can’t image how that felt and I’m so sorry you had to experience it. Sending you a big hug for the little one the didn’t make it.

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