Are you a Stiff Blogger?

What’s a stiff blogger?

I don’t really know, I just made it up.

To me, it means that I can’t let the words flow without worrying questions creeping in and making my writing stiff and rigid. So, I’m a boring, over thinking blog writer. I know I am. I just don’t know how to stop my analysing thoughts and enjoy writing for what it is.

Questions, Questions

  • How does that give anyone helpful content?
  • I hate my writing. Will I look like an idiot if I don’t pick up the simple grammatical and spelling mistakes?
  • Is this suitable for my blog?
  • Could what I write be detrimental to becoming a picture book author?
  • Why would anyone want to read about that?

I love writing but I hate it at the  same time because I set boundaries on it. I keep more outrageous posts in a box under my bed and the ones I do post take copious amounts of time because I’m critically analysing all the whys, whats, whens and hows of the post.

I’m envious of bloggers who can churn out four blog posts a week. I manage one or two maximum because I worry too much about what to write about and if it’s worthy.

What to do about it?

I have to begin at the start.

I’m going to try to post on here more often. I’m going to rip the analysing thoughts aside and just write. I’m going to write posts that may bore you but they will be eventful to my family. I’m going to write about my children and their progress and I’m going to write about me.  Until I break down the suffocating walls,  I can’t provide useful content and I can’t improve my writing skills.

Easier said then done, huh?

Any words of wisdom from my relaxed and limp fellow bloggers would be wonderful?



  1. No words of wisdom. I think you captured the thoughts and feelings of many bloggers in this post and you came up with a solution. Now you just have to do it! Cheers to breaking down some walls!!
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  2. I get where you are coming from with this. I am not a stiff blogger as such, but in the beginning I did worry a lot about whether any one would be interested in what I wrote, so to save myself from rejection I just didn’t write much. Then when I noticed I didn’t have many readers anyway I decided it didn’t matter what I said as no one was stopping by. In some ways I still feel the same, though I can see I have more readers now than in those early days (just :))
    My motto now is just write. That is all that matters at this stage as long as I keep getting words out there it will get me closer to my goals. Can’t wait to read more of you lovely
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    • Just write. That’t what I need to remind myself every time those questions keep popping into my head. Thanks Rhi, you’re always helpul!

  3. I just posted a blog on mummy blog writing. The first point might also help you … It’s about finding your voice, or not being afraid of it. You wouldn’t be afraid of telling yr hubbie or mum about yr idea, day, issue, worry etc. when u start writing, write as if you are telling yr best friend. That’s the advice one of my first editors told me. I’ve never forgotten it and it makes writing a much more free process – that and just trusting yourself. Trust what you say and write is ok. And forget the judgments, it’s for you. X
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    • Off to visit now. Thanks so much for letting me know about it. I guess I’m just worried my voice might not be strong enough in real life to show up on paper/computer.

  4. Some great advice from Bachelormum above. But also, whenever you do any creative writing course, they will always get you writing stream of consciousness first to get rid of all the “shoulds” – I “should” be writing this etc – and to get to the words that just flow. So perhaps before writing a blog post just write some crap, to get rid of the blocks, and see if it starts to turn into a post. You can always go back and fix the start.
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  5. great advice – i am lucky in that my mum literally reads every blog post that i write. so as long as i would have that convo with her in real life, i am okay to post it. Thats just my rule- and i try to not write about work. You have to be true to yourself, otehrwise you may always find yourself being a ‘stiff blogger’ xx

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    • My best friend doesn’t read everything I write but if there’s something I just can’t get right, I give it to her. She’s a brilliant writer (she doesn’t think so) and she can find all the bumps and iron them out. I don’t want to burden her all the time so I need to work harder to get better at writing by myself.

  6. It’s hard when you have so many concerns when writing.. I think the best way is really to just write, and don’t stop to edit. Soon, you will find your “flow” and know what works for you.. then you won’t have to guess anymore :)
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    • I usually write your way. Edit later but then I seem to make so many mistakes because I miss them in the rereads. I’m going to try it differently but if that doesn’t work, I’ll go back to my usually, edit later. I think I just need to try something new and see if it helps.

  7. As a blog writer that also suffers being overly constrained and critical the best thing I’ve done is promise myself one post a week without fail. I’ve also promised to put “me” in the blog. I reckon if you right about something you care about then the walls will probabyl come down by themselves…
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    • Thanks Kevin. That’s my minimum too. I also blog at Wildlife Fun 4 Kids, so really I blog twice a week. This blog is less restrictive though but sometimes I find it harder to write here. That sounds odd doesn’t it?!

  8. Penny you say you’re not a natural writer, but all evidence is to the contrary.
    People come here for you. So just be yourself. That’s all any of us can be.
    Having said that…..
    Sometimes I write things and they don’t sit well with me; I’m just not comfortable. So I tweak it or change it or read it to boatman. He can tell what I mean and help me translate it better.
    If you’re not happy in your gut, don’t post it. xx
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    • Jess, you are such a sweetheart. Honestly, can I send you a big squishy squeeze right now, or is that kind of weird?
      Be myself. I need to be myself. Okay, going to try to be myself and analyse less.

  9. I think you’re an awesome writer, Penny. Heck! I’ve even had the honour to have you guest post!
    When I get stuck…I just think of a story. Something that’s happened.
    I also get inspiration from how other’s (in the real life) react to one of my stories. If they laugh, or cry or show any real genuine emotion…then I know I need to share it on my blog too.
    Keep going, hun. You’re gifted xxx
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    • That was quite an exceptional situation though Grace. LMAO
      Great advice hon. I will try to do that. I notice myself telling stories to my work colleagues (pent up adult attention required). Perhaps these are the stories I need to tell. Hmm, you’re on to something. Genius!

  10. i am a stiff blogger lol
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  11. I know what you mean Pen. I’m lucky if I post once a week at the moment (other than my photo challenge), and when I do I feel like it’s crap.
    But let me say this. If I could write what I’ve seen you write, I’d be happy.
    I think you’re so much better than you give yourself credit for.
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    • Oh Tracey, you’re a beautiful writer. I love your posts and adore all your STTs. You’re more talented than you thing. Perhaps we both have to give ourselves a shot of confidence huh?

  12. Penny you have a fabulous style. I really enjoy stopping by your blog. But I do understand what you are saying… sometimes the end result just does not show the effort and process that went on behind the scenes. I too would like to be able to write more fluently and less stiff and time consuming. Another blogger Bachelor Mum Style who posted for #IBOT today had some wonderful blogging tips that might help you.
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  13. I agree with Jess, just be yourself! Having said that I should take some of my own advice. I think i’m a bit of a stiff blogger too, but I have found that if I imagine I’m telling the story to someone that it flows more easily. :)
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  14. I need to do the same! So well said x
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  15. I think you’re a great writer Penny, I love reading your posts :)
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  16. I think I’ve always been a bit over-analytical of my writing. I haven’t been writing as frequently, and I’m finding it really hard to get back into the groove again. I know I just need to write and the words will flow, but sometimes it really is hard to write that post without constantly hitting the backspace!
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    • So true! That’s exactly how I feel. I just wish my mind would turn off and only my story would escape, with perfectly crafted writing too.

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